Monday, September 12, 2011

Mother of the Groom-Blues

I don't know about you, but for me there were some messy hormone days following the birth of our only child. It was "back then" and my Doctor said I could gain no more than 15 pounds. I gained 13lbs. As soon as we got home I went down to 105-The sun came out three months later, but there were some cloudy days.Following the rain, I loved motherhood passionately. I wish I could have had eight; nevertheless I became close to the one God gave us-There was just one  problem...It was waiting for him to find he one compatible girl for the ring. Finally, after college-followed by a masters-followed by 14 years of  his coaching I gave up. I would never be a grandmother or have that daughter-in -law "daughter" relationship I craved. After suggesting he try a dating service-the town had run out of single woman to date-he said, "No need. I know who she is. We've found one another." I met her six months later when I knew it was for real. She was a winner-lovely, intelligent-mature and kind. We were sailing toward a wedding. Then crash! Someone told me to say goodbye to my our son-as did another and another-It was like they were trying to torment me. It isn't just fathers that grow sad. I finally broke down and wept.  Upon seeing our son I cried, "Please come home to visit,. He laughed as I dried my eyes with the glue gun. I was using it to make rehearsal dinner decorations. I had tried to counter my friends by saying both sets of parents could share a holiday meal together. They shook their heads. No-It didn't work that way, they said. Now six years later and with a grandchild- I can say 'they were wrong.' We share Easter and other times together and they invite us up for branding. Don't buy it. There's plenty of love and alot of chairs and food for everyone. Step out of the box and look for alternatives. Why be lonely and miserable?  Get together as needed. Tour children will love having you together rather than worrying about you home alone and put out...Smile...

1 comment:

  1. If your mom cries over losing her little boy reasure her she'll see you again and that all she needs to do is climb out of the box to look at some win win alternatives-/from there it's an uphill climb-But then I have a lovely daughter-in-law so it's more than rewarding than ever-especially since baby makes three-

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